I'm not afraid of storms, for I'm learning how to sail my ship.
Louisa May Alcott
I help people who are unsure of themselves build confidence and self-compassion without becoming selfish or losing their standards.
My clients struggle like you do. Despite being hardworking, giving and creative, relationships are tough. When they first come in they feel frustrated and stuck in unwanted patterns. They long for deeper connection without having to give up too much or compromise what they want out of life or in a partner. They waffle between feeling too good or not good enough for the people in their life. They worry if others see who they really are they’ll run screaming. But they also look at others who seem to have authentic love and feel hopeful it might be out there for them, too. So they keep trying despite the disappointment, self-doubt and heart-break.
Their low self-esteem, shame and anxiety get in the way of the life they want in so many ways. They’re overly critical of themselves and others: (Even if others don't know it). They can't decide which direction to move in order to get the results they want. They aren’t who they want to be. They feel like they’re failing at learning to accept and like themselves and in their roles as romantic partners. And sometimes they push others away or feel like a fake who's trying too hard at work and with their families, too.
Before they came to see me, they felt trapped in cycles of hope and despair. They worried they’d never find the love they wanted and be loved for who they really are.
Some even had moments they worried they would die alone or without ever finding their real selves.
The mess and insecurity made them want to give up trying, or move away & start all over.
But thankfully, they came to therapy instead!
Like my clients, you deserve the confidence it takes to come out of hiding - knowing you're fully worthy of other’s love and knowing how to better love yourself. Therapy is the place to begin the journey.
If you want to experience genuine self-acceptance leading to better relationships, I’d love to help you get there.
Part of your view from the couch: Cozy in all weather and seasons - Like an arty nest :)